Monthly Archives: September 2016

Acquiring Effective Listening Skills – Part 2

The last Tip of the Week Learn Tlisten_silento Listen evoked much positive feedback. Quite a number of readers requested elaboration and techniques to enable effective listening.

These techniques are not restricted to dating but on the contrary, can be applied for married couples, parent-child conversations, friends, co-workers, employer-employee dialogue etc etc.

You would be amazed (or maybe not) how often when counselling I need to address this issue that one party is not listening to the other. They may be so focused on themselves or what they want to say, that to their own detriment they are oblivious to what the other person is communicating. read more

Learn To Listen – Part 1

listening-earTwo weeks ago, I addressed the Hakomas Matzeiva – Memorial Consecration for my father z”l in Melbourne Australia. I was blessed to have such an outstanding role model as a parent, friend, confidant and adviser.  My father raised the bar on so many levels and Boruch Hashem I had plenty material and life changing insights to share with those in attendance.

One of my father’s outstanding virtues was his ability to LISTEN.  Not, in one ear and out the other. Not interrupting or imposing his views and thoughts on another. But truly listening, understanding, relating, focusing and being attentive to whomever sought his advice. He had the uncanny ability to tune in and be genuinely interested in what was being told to him. My father was able to make the person speaking to him feel heard and validated. The person confiding in him always felt respected, relaxed and comfortable expressing his perspective without being embarrassed or belittled. read more